The Power of Mindful Connecting: Whose List Are You On?
The Question That Changed Everything
In a conversation about belonging and loneliness in one of positive psychology classes, we were asked a simple but powerful question: Who’s on your 3 AM call list? You know the one—that mental list of people you could call in the middle of the night if something happened. The people who would show up, no matter what. It’s comforting to know you have a few names on that list. But then I found myself wondering… Isn’t it equally important to be that someone for someone else?
The Heart of Belonging
It’s one thing to know you’re not alone. It’s another to be someone’s place to turn to in their hardest, most vulnerable moments.That, to me, is the essence of deep connection.
Being someone’s 3 AM call means:
They trust you enough to reach out when they’re at their lowest
They believe you’ll show up without judgment
They feel seen, safe, and supported in your presence
And to be honest, that kind of connection doesn’t just happen. It’s cultivated through presence, intention, care and reciprocity.
This is What I Call Mindful Connecting
Showing up in relationships with curiosity, consistency, and genuine care.
It’s about asking yourself:
How am I showing up in this relationship?
Am I listening, supporting, and staying curious about what matters to them?
Do I share openly enough to build real trust?
Am I making space for connection beyond surface-level check-ins?
Connection Beyond The 3 AM Call
Mindful connecting can happen anywhere and anytime:
With your closest friends and family
With a colleague or client
Even with the barista who hands you your coffee every morning
Ask yourself:
Do I know their name?
What’s important to them right now?
What’s one way I can acknowledge or support them today?
It might be just a moment—but small moments create deep impact.
A Call to Connect
Imagine a world where more of us took the time to be present, to listen, and to care—even briefly. What if you made someone’s life brighter today… just by being the kind of person who might make their 3 AM list someday? That’s mindful connecting. That’s what builds belonging, one moment at a time.
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